"Some people miss their partner or are uncertain why they broke up or they feel the relationship has improved," she says."It may be a combination of factors such as continued attachment to the previous partner, less closure if the reason for the breakup was not very clear, or constraints, such as having a child together or living together." As for the "let's be friends" approach, Vennum says there needs to be more research done to see whether friendship with an ex is a feasible alternative. it would probably be less risky if the break-up is mutual and there is clarity on the status of the relationship post-breakup," she says.Selena and Justin both had what appear to be bottles of spring water sitting in front of them, while he also had an iced coffee. Selena has been dating fellow singer The Weeknd since at least January. Another insider had said days earlier that Justin and Selena are "just friends" and that "nothing romantic is going on" between them."They both have a long history with each other so they will always have a place in their heart for one another," the source added.They were later spotted attending church services, sitting with the pastor. Last week, the two exes, who dated on and off for three years before breaking up in 2014, spent time together at her Los Angeles home. News the former lovebirds have hung out "a few times" since she underwent kidney transplant surgery this past summer.On Sunday morning, Justin and Selena reunited for breakfast at JOi Cafe in Westlake Village, California, a suburb northwest of Los Angeles. News the two looked "friendly."TMZ posted a photo of the two sitting at a small square table. News last week that "Justin has been in constant contact with Selena and they have a great, friendly relationship" and that she "is trying to not overdo it" with seeing Justin, "as she doesn't want to upset Abel."The source added that The Weeknd, whose real name is Abel Tesfaye, is understanding of the situation.A flirtatious Twitter exchange is second only to canoodling when it comes to reunion rumors, and they were also spotted doing the latter while Evans was filming “they seemed like a couple,” because they were laughing and he even touched her arm a couple of times.Maybe a few gentle arm brushes aren’t quite canoodling, but it is close.
He did -- which is when the trouble really started."On average, partners who were cyclical while dating enter marriage in a slightly more challenging spot than their non-cyclical partners," says Vennum."[They] report more uncertainty about whether getting married is the best decision and begin the marriage with more destructive conflict, less feelings of closeness to their partner and lower satisfaction." Vennum says in the world of romance research, there are plenty of theories as to why we continually try to rekindle old flames, even though we may know better.As for Braverman, who blogs about dating at Single Gal NYC, she says she's sworn off recycled love affairs for now. "You can revisit but it doesn't mean the outcome is going to be any different," she says.